is this you right now?
DREAMING OF GETTING THROUGH THE DAY WITHOUT LOOSING YOUR MIND IN THE CHAOS?
You keep trying to be more organised and on top of everything, but you still end most days exhausted, snappy and unable to switch off. On the outside you look like you are coping. Inside you feel like you are drowning and you're one tiny thing away from losing it.
And with all of that in your head, it is no wonder there is no time or brain space left for your own ideas, dreams or next step.
If you are tired of just surviving the day.. you are in the right place!
A simple 5-minute checklist that shows you exactly why you feel like you are drowning and stuck in survival mode, without blaming yourself or FLIP your whole life UPSIDE DOWN to fix it.
STEAL the exact checklist I use as an Occupational Therapist with my clients. It shows you in black and white that the mental load you are carrying would leave anyone overwhelmed. It is NOT your fault you feel this way. This is not all there is for you. There is more to life than just surviving the day.
FEELING LESS LIKE "I AM FAILING" AND MORE LIKE "THIS MAKE SENSE" IS CLOSER THAN YOU THINK.
FEELING DIFFERENT STARTS WITH SEEING WHAT YOU ARE REALLY CARRYING. I DOES NOT HAPPEN BY ACCIDENT.
You DON'T suddenly wake up calm because you bought another planner, tried a new routine or pushed yourself to “cope better”. If you are still hoping that the next system, list or reset day will magically change everything… it won't.
The mums who start to feel calmer and more present are NOT the ones forcing themselves to do more.
It's time to make that shift!
They are the ones who finally see what they are actually carrying, stop calling themselves the problem, and make small, honest shifts that work with their brain and body instead of against them.
THAT IS EXACTLY WHAT THIS FREE MENTAL LOAD CHECKLIST IS HERE TO HELP YOU START.
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FROM SURVIVING TO LIVING: THE MENTAL LOAD CHECKLIST
You will learn how to:
💛 See your invisible mental load on paper
Without spiralling into thoughts like “Why can I not do it all when everyone else seems to manage?”
💛 Spot the signs that you are in survival mode
Using a clear five minute MOT check in you can come back to whenever you need it.
💛 Understand what is really draining you
So you can start asking for and accepting support without feeling guilty, and slowly create more space for what you want next, not just everyone else’s needs.
💛 Take the first tiny step out of constant survival mode
With a gentle sixty second reset you can use any time, in a way that feels simple, kind to your nervous system and realistic for your real life, not like another thing on your to do list.
Your first step out of survival mode doesn't have to be complicated!
I'll send it right away.
From surviving each day on fumes, snapping at the people you love..
To moving towards a steadier, more present version of you who is not always one step from losing it.
Hey! I'm Rachelle
I am an Occupational Therapist. I support high functioning, overwhelmed mums with fast, busy brains who keep everyone else going but feel like they are just surviving their life, not really living it, and have no space left for their own ideas or dreams.
I have been the mum who remembers everything, keeps all the plates spinning and still lies there wondering why she cannot just cope like everyone else seems to. The one who looks fine but is absolutely wiped out inside.
For a long time I thought I just needed to be more organised or try harder. On the outside I was the strong one. Inside, I was done.
When I started to see my own mental load clearly and realised I was not broken, I was overloaded. That changed everything about how I treated myself.
OVERWHELM IS DIRECTLY LINKED TO YOUR MENTAL LOAD
You can't change what you can't see.
Most mums try to fix survival mode by pushing harder or getting more organised... but if you never see what you are actually carrying, it just feels like more proof you are failing.
This checklist makes your mental load visible, so you can understand why you feel like this and start treating yourself with more honesty and compassion.
More of:
• Awareness of what you are carrying
• Compassion for yourself
• Support
• Joy in the small moments
• Presence in your own life
Less of:
• Snapping and then feeling awful
• Self blame
• Lying there at 2am thinking “What is wrong with me?”
When you see what you are carrying.. How you feel day-to-day starts to change. It's that simple.
Put this five minute Mental Load Checklist in place and start noticing more understanding, less self blame and gentler days in a very short space of time.
I have used this gentle mental load check in for myself and with my clients as an occupational therapist, to see clearly that the load we are carrying would leave anyone overwhelmed. Now I am sharing it with you for free as a simple, step by step checklist.
Because when you understand the load your brain and body are holding, you can stop fighting yourself and start changing the way you respond.
This Checklist Is For You.. If..
You want to feel calmer and more present, not just like the organiser of everyone else’s lives
You are tired of trying to be more organised and still ending up exhausted and on edge
You are sick of telling yourself “I should be able to cope” and wondering what is wrong with you
You want a clear, honest check in you can do in a few minutes with a brew
You are ready to stop blaming yourself and start seeing that your overload makes sense
There is a part of you that knows you want more from life than just getting through the day, but you have no time or headspace left for your own ideas or dreams
YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY ONE FEELING LIKE THIS
What other mums have said after doing THE MENTAL LOAD CHECKLIST
“For the first time it made sense”
“I honestly thought it was just me being useless. Seeing it all written down made me realise anyone would feel overwhelmed with this much on their plate. No wonder I am exhausted all the time.”
“I am not a failure”
“I did the checklist at the kitchen table and actually cried. Not in a bad way, more like relief. For the first time in ages I thought, ‘Okay, this makes sense… I am not just failing at life.”
“Life is still chaos, but I am not”
“Nothing around me has changed, the house is still chaos and life is still full on, but I am snapping less and I do not feel like such a rubbish mum. I can see it is the load, not that there is something wrong with me.”
“No wonder I felt so lost”
"Before I did this I just felt like I was going mad. My brain was buzzing all the time and I could not explain why I felt so lost and distant, even with the kids."
Choose to be one of the mums who does something about it.
Join other overloaded mums who have already started their five minute Mental Load MOT and taken their first gentle step out of survival mode.
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